With the Holidays coming up I felt the nudge to share openly. In hopes that maybe I can be a friend to others on the same journey. I’m usually not an open book. I don’t do good with sharing my feelings and emotions, Im someone who has always dealt with my pain alone. Some of you know and understand while others do not. 3 years my husband and I have been trying to Conceive. 3 years of failed pregnancy tests, ovulation strips, supplements, try this try that, 3 years of watching and celebrating others as they get the joyous news of being parents while aching because it’s not our turn yet. This is not for pity because without this waiting period I would not have grown in my faith, I would not have connected with some of the amazing people I have developed friendships with over this topic. I have grown as a person ,as a wife , as a friend and most importantly a daughter in Christ because of this struggle. I could honestly write a book about how this has taught me so much. But that does not mean that I don’t have moments where I get so sad and angry.

So this is a reminder to all to think before you ask the question this holiday season…..

When are you guys going to have children?

Because you might not have any clue ,family or not, how that question can make someone feel. Especially if you have never struggled in this way. I know nobody has ill intentions when asking this question but it’s still very personal and can be triggering.

I can’t tell you how many times we have been told “You guys would be awesome parents! When are you going to have some of your own”

I challenge you to pray. Pray for those Married couples who don’t have children yet who you think would make great parents. Pray for their fertility, for their future children for their well being, pray good things over their life. Don’t question them about when because they may or may not have any say in the matter.